...the family he has
It is a family that makes us who we are. It is around those we call our relatives where we cognize first facts about this life and world. There is no way for one to forget about a family and to live on one's own. No matter what we do, no matter where we go to, no matter how long we are absent we always remember about them and we always come back to them when we feel frustrated and abandoned. These are people who will always stay next to us every single second of our life, even if they far away from us. According to the family one has and to his attitude towards the family and family values you can detect whether a person has foundations or not.
It is very important for one to care about his family, about those who care about him. If a man cares not about his family be sure that he won't care about the family you will have. If there is no family values suggested for him by parents there are any family values at all. It is important to know about one's relations with father. A father is the most important member of family for a man. It is father the one who is the example for a boy. It doesn't matter what words are said for a child, it is more important what deeds he sees. If a boy is told that it is important to respect a woman but he sees that his father acts the different way – he will be just the same.
Children are imitators; they follow their parents' behavior. Once you get acquainted with members of your man's family pay a good attention to relations between them. Sure, there are exceptions to the rule, but in most cases the family of a man is a perfect copy of a family he will have. If there is no mutual understanding between members of the family it will be hard for him to create it in his own family. One, who is not get used to share his feelings with his parents will never wonder about the feelings his children have. It is wrong to consider that one will learn from one's mistakes. In most cases people think "My parents never wondered about my worries but still I managed to deal with them on my own and I'm okay, so he/she will also be okay".
Another important kind of family relations you have to pay your attention to are relations between a man and his mother. She is the one who creates subconscious image of a perfect woman. She is the one who may bring him up as a man or as a mummy's boy. A mom who always says him what to do, what should be worn, what should be said or chosen is the one who brings up a mummy's boy. He is a man who get used to someone makes decisions for him. He will never manage to become an independent and will never follow his own thoughts. He will always wonder about what his mom thinks about it.
On the other hand, if a man neglects his mom and pieces of advice she gives – he is a man who will never care much about your opinion. It is possible that mom were considered a cleaning lady only. If it is so, be sure that he has the same opinion about you and about all women. Your point of view will never be minded, he will only care about his opinion. If he is smart enough he will be a good listener, but listening will be his limit. As you can see family is a big deal in forming one's personality, if a man has no family values you will hardly manage to suggest him those. What should be realized is that it is impossible to change one as he is grown up. You can only make him hide his real face but sooner or later things will be brought back to what they were.